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"Control is not leadership; management is not leadership; leadership is leadership is leadership. If you seek to lead, invest at least 50% of your time leading yourself—your own purpose, ethics, principles, motivation, conduct. Invest at least 20% leading those with authority over you and 15% leading your peers. If you don't understand that you work for your mislabeled 'subordinates,' then you know nothing of leadership. You know only tyranny." — Dee Hock Founder and CEO Emeritus VISA Internation The picture in the top left hand corner is inspired by my minor obsession with "Words With Friends." Best. App. Ever. But let me get to the point... I am two classes away from completing my Masters in Organizational Leadership and it's been a long journey of reflection, growth and constant application of what I have learned. I have always considered myself a leader since I was a young girl but that doesn't come without challenges along the wa...

"Change is inevitable - except from a vending machine." ~Robert C. Gallagher "He who rejects change is the architect of decay. The only human institution which rejects progress is the cemetery." ~Harold Wilson When it comes to change, you can either fear it, resist it, accept and embrace it, or constantly seek it. Change is a constant in life and it is one of the things in life I most enjoy. Whether it is changing my hair color, changing my furniture arrangement, changing the city in which I live, changing jobs, or changing my attitude - change gives me a sense of renewal and excitement. At the beginning of this month I made a change in my attitude which left me feeling lighter. Seriously... I am about 12 pounds lighter. I have always made excuses as to why I couldn't put my needs first in my own life but after feeling rundown and exhausted after my Palm Springs trip (see previous blog), I decided enough was enough and I was going to put my self discipli...

One of the best moments in the movie "The Blind Side" was when Michael is in football practice and has some guy in a hold and instead of finishing the play, he gets distracted by a couple of loose balloons floating up into the sky. I watch that and it reminds me of many moments in my life. I actually remember in my second blog about Larchmont's Brick House, I got distracted from the topic at hand and ended up blogging about two flies mating on a window sill. I am finding that lately, I am more easily distracted than normal. Some may question if I have ADHD which I do joke about at times, but I don't have it. I tested and passed. I then acted my way through anther test and failed to see if medication would help and although it did a little bit, it wasn't worth the clenched jaw all day and feeling like I needed to smoke a carton of cigarettes. I needed to rest every other day from the adderral hangover. For people who don't need it, adderrall is legal crac...

Once in a while, we all appease our inner rockstar and say to ourselves, "I don't feel like going out, I just wanna wrap myself in a snuggie and watch movies" but, we go out anyway. After an exceptionally awful day, I found myself in this very position. Sometimes, no matter what you do, you can't possibly do right by anyone. By anyone, I mean the people that don't respect and value you for what you have to give in this world. Feelings are powerful little buggers that creep deep within your being and try to take over every little action that you are normally capable of doing without compromise. Feelings are what make you, well... you. It is so easy to let your feelings rule your life because it is all encompassing. It takes over your mind, body and soul. You feel...and when you become aware of the vulnerability, no matter what emotion, the first instinct is to succumb and dwell in your little land of emotion. Tonight I made plans to attend an event not knowin...

I still remember being a little girl with a lot of wants and needs. It didn't matter what it was that I wanted, it was why I had to have it. You know, because I would just die without it! My life would be over! I was pretty spoiled as a kid but I would like to think that was because I was very well mannered. I may have been the only kid that would call their friends houses and say, "Hi! May I speak with _____ please?" I got that from my sister. I don't know where she got it from but I remember watching her and thinking to myself that it sounded real nice. Like a tall cool glass of chocolate milk. That may or may not have been a reference to black men... The point is, if I asked for something, my mom would say, "how do you ask for something?" and I would get red faced and embarrassed that I forgot and look up and say, "Pleeeeeeeasssse". If that were to score me what I wanted, she would remind me by saying, "What do you say?", and I...

Now that I am on my way to becoming a professional dater, I will not deny my friend Laura's request to continue blogging a bit more about dating in the modern world. My overall opinion is a bit biased because I live in a city where commitment and relationships don't really seem to be top priority. But, I think that most of what I have to say is true for wherever you may reside. Based on my experience, this is my truth about guys and dating. This one is for the ladies however, I will indeed have a blog for the gentlemen readers soon. 1. If he is sweet to your face and then consistently blows you off - he does not have any interest. This shouldn't be confusing but it is common for women to fall for it all the time and make excuses for the man that is always getting away. If he is constantly making plans for the two of you that never happen, he is with someone else doing what he dreamed up for the two of you. 2. If all he does is text you and doesn't call - he is...