Unfaithful
The movie "Unfaithful" happened to be on tonight; a movie I have seen several times. I only caught the tail end of the film this time around but this time, it left me thinking for longer than usual. Connie Sumner goes through the painful emotional journey of finding out that her husband not only knew that she had been cheating on him, but had hired someone to follow her and take pictures for proof. Her husband, knowing that he had killed the young man she had cheated with, has to come to terms with what he had done all for love. The married couple decide that their love for one another and their son is too great to tell the truth and come clean with what actually happened. Instead of justice being served for the poor fool who was charmed by Connie Sumners beauty and then killed for it, his story remains unsolved while the married couple decides it's best for them and their son to move past it and on with their lives as hard as it may seem. They decide to live the rest of their lives with the secret that a young man was killed because of their actions; hers in search of something missing from her marriage and his - passionate anger that his wife betrayed him. Their love was enough in the end, why wasn't it enough before someone had to get to get killed?
I have never been hopelessly in love and cannot begin to understand the emotions that come along with it but through living and learning from relationships around me, I have a pretty good understanding of what I "think" I would do in the name of love. Of course, you never really know until you are in it and actually experiencing it first hand. I know people who have cheated, I know people who have been cheated on, I know people who get involved with others who are in relationships and it's all really just messed up. When you ask the question of "why"? There is never a really good reason. I mean a REALLY good one. But somehow the risk doesn't seem to be that easy to pass up when usually, the end result is ruining the relationship you are in (assuming the partner finds out), or living a ginormous lie.
Most people I know opt just not to tell the person that they are with that they cheated and hope they get away with it which fascinates me because most of the time, the cheating goes on a very long time and they end up getting caught anyway. If you would rather keep it a secret and let it go on until you get caught, why stay in a relationship?
Relationships are a hot mess these days. You are either:
- "Happy" in your relationship but have a sense of doubt as to how long that can possibly last.
- The fool who thinks you are happy and has no idea that your partner is cheating on you incessantly.
- The "other" man or woman who has no chance at being happy with the person who is cheating on their girlfriend or boyfriend because you could a) never trust them and b) are just sloppy seconds
- The cheater who will end up alone because either the guilt will make it impossible to feel worthy of love, or worse - responsibility has never been taken and the guilt never creeps in making it impossible to become a better person and have a chance at true happiness and love.
- Or lastly, you can be the person not in a relationship who hears the horror stories of what is happening in relationships around them today, developing a fear of ever trusting anyone again.
The art of cheating is really perplexing me. Cheating is the worst thing you can do to someone that you love. It tears people apart. It makes them do things they would never dream of doing. It creates a blind fury that can be, well, quite frightening. It can ruin people. If you really love the person you are with, REALLY love them - how can you bring yourself to cheat on them and then lie about it?
"You Lost Me" (Click to Listen)
I have never been hopelessly in love and cannot begin to understand the emotions that come along with it but through living and learning from relationships around me, I have a pretty good understanding of what I "think" I would do in the name of love. Of course, you never really know until you are in it and actually experiencing it first hand. I know people who have cheated, I know people who have been cheated on, I know people who get involved with others who are in relationships and it's all really just messed up. When you ask the question of "why"? There is never a really good reason. I mean a REALLY good one. But somehow the risk doesn't seem to be that easy to pass up when usually, the end result is ruining the relationship you are in (assuming the partner finds out), or living a ginormous lie.
Most people I know opt just not to tell the person that they are with that they cheated and hope they get away with it which fascinates me because most of the time, the cheating goes on a very long time and they end up getting caught anyway. If you would rather keep it a secret and let it go on until you get caught, why stay in a relationship?
Relationships are a hot mess these days. You are either:
- "Happy" in your relationship but have a sense of doubt as to how long that can possibly last.
- The fool who thinks you are happy and has no idea that your partner is cheating on you incessantly.
- The "other" man or woman who has no chance at being happy with the person who is cheating on their girlfriend or boyfriend because you could a) never trust them and b) are just sloppy seconds
- The cheater who will end up alone because either the guilt will make it impossible to feel worthy of love, or worse - responsibility has never been taken and the guilt never creeps in making it impossible to become a better person and have a chance at true happiness and love.
- Or lastly, you can be the person not in a relationship who hears the horror stories of what is happening in relationships around them today, developing a fear of ever trusting anyone again.
The art of cheating is really perplexing me. Cheating is the worst thing you can do to someone that you love. It tears people apart. It makes them do things they would never dream of doing. It creates a blind fury that can be, well, quite frightening. It can ruin people. If you really love the person you are with, REALLY love them - how can you bring yourself to cheat on them and then lie about it?
"You Lost Me" (Click to Listen)
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